How we love Pleaser and Avoider?

Avoiders show love by being responsible and doing tasks. While pleasers “fix” difficult emotions, avoiders dismiss difficult emotions by saying things like, “Settle down,” “Stop crying, it won’t change anything,” “Forget it and move forward.”

What are the 5 connection styles?

Milan and Kay Yerkovich identified 5 Love Styles that inform the way connect to others- Avoider, Pleaser, Vacillator, Controller, and Victim- with the goal of becoming a Secure Connector.

What’s the pattern of the Avoider and the pleaser?

Below is the pattern common to relationships where partners have the Avoider + Pleaser love styles, respectively. The Pleaser in the relationship is hyper-vigilant about disapproval/rejection. Dishonest. Minimizes or denies problems The Avoider in the relationship is annoyed by the Pleaser’s need for approval and reassurance.

Why is the Avoider annoyed with the pleaser?

The Avoider in the relationship is annoyed by the Pleaser’s need for approval and reassurance. Triggered: The Avoider is now annoyed with the Pleaser. The Avoiders response causes the Pleaser to feel rejected, panicky, and/or alone.

Which is the best description of an avoidant person?

Emotional immaturity – we have not matured to the point of being ready for adult intimacy. Emotional woundedness – do to lack of love binding in childhood we failed to gain the capacity for adult loving intimacy. Flight from life – an avoidant personality with a high need for privacy, control of appearances and risk avoidance.

What are the 7 types of intimacy avoiders?

I have discovered seven personality types that avoid intimacy. We are in silent divorce when these patterns are stronger than the forces God put within us so that we could become one flesh. Stay in Silent Divorce long enough and even the bonding that God put there (emotional and spiritual attachment) will be broken.